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The Deadly Mistake Women Make That Will Drive Your Man Away From You
If you’ve ever felt like you were giving everything to a man or a relationship, only to be taken for granted…
If you’ve ever felt like no matter what you did, you were never “enough†for a man that you were seeing…
If you’ve ever spent months or years with a man and you felt like everything was going great but he started getting distant, withdrawn, or maybe even disappeared on you…
Or if you’ve ever really liked or even fallen in love with a guy and you knew that he was the right one for you but he seemed unsure, not ready, or confused…
Then you've fallen victim to getting on something that I call, “The Heartbreak Treadmill.â€
After working with thousands of women over the last 7 years, I’ve found that The Heartbreak Treadmill is the biggest mistake women fall into that makes men pull away, grow cold, and disappear altogether…
I call it the Heartbreak Treadmill because you start working, thinking that it will make the man you’re seeing feel closer to you...
But things only get worse… many times this happens suddenly, like it came out of nowhere.
And you want to make things better. So what do you do?
Work harder… work faster… work more...
But no matter how much you work at it, nothing seems to get any better.
You feel like you’re doing EVERYTHING for him and for the relationship, only for him to lose more interest.
But why does this happen?
Because the problem isn’t solved by doing more, the problem is that you’re doing the wrong thing. You need to GET OFF the treadmill.
Here's How You Know You're On The Treadmill...
Most women who are on The Heartbreak Treadmill are doing at least one of these four mistakes…
1. The first one is going into convincing mode...
This looks like trying to convince him of how great the two of you are together…
Maybe you make comments about how great of a partner you would be, how beautiful your kids would look together, or why you should be together.
This makes him think you’re desperate even if you’re not. It also makes him feel pressure, like you’re trying to force him into something he’s not sure about yet.
2. The second mistake is making things as easy as possible for him...
This usually looks like moving your schedule around to accommodate his, driving to him, planning everything, or doing things because you think it’s what he wants.
You want HIM to be doing these things for YOU, not the other way around.
3. The third mistake is trying to show him you’re a great catch...
This usually takes the form of subtly alerting him to the idea that he has competition or trying to make him jealous.
Most women I know don’t even realize that they’re doing this. But this communicates to him the opposite of what you want it to.
To men, this feels gross. It makes him feel like you’re trying to manipulate him instead of being the amazing, high value woman he thought you were.
4. The fourth mistake is initiating contact ALL the time...
Most women do this because they’re scared that he’s going to slip away. This might look like finding reasons to send a text or trying to keep the conversation going even though it’s clearly ended.
Doing these things push him away because you’re leaning forward, you’re trying to MAKE something happen, and that’s MASCULINE energy.
There's Nothing Wrong With Masculine Energy...
All men and women have masculine energy. It helps us get ahead in work, accomplish our dreams and goals, and make rational decisions about things.
But when you bring masculine energy to most men, at best it makes him LOSE INTEREST in having anything more than a casual, hookup type of “situationship†with you.
He’ll see you as a buddy… a friend… someone he just wants to “hangout†with and nothing more.
At worst, it’ll make him feel like he needs to move on and find someone he “feels it†more for.
You see, the truth is that most men WANT to fi